Archive for June, 2007
Tuesday, June 5th, 2007
With summer right around the corner, dating is about to heat up. There is no reason to keep up with those old and tired date ideas that you have been using for so many years. Don’t get me wrong, I love bowling as much as the next person, but it does tend to get boring. Summer time offers a great opportunity to do some fun and creative things that can leave an impact on your date. After all, people just want to have fun on dates. Choosing something far from cliché is a great way to make sure this happens.
Because the weather is warm and the water is great, heading down to the beach or lake is always a good summer date idea. If you happen to live near the beach, drive down there, have a meal, and enjoy the setting. The lake is also a good option, especially if you have a boat. Invite your date and some of your mutual friends to head out on the water and have a great day.
Most people agree that dinner and a movie is simply played out in today’s society. Instead of going to dinner, why not go and grab ice cream at a local shop. This will make for an informal date setting that is comfortable for everybody. Most people love ice cream, so this is a good way to come together.
During the summer, there are baseball games each night all over the country. If you are lucky enough to live in a major league city, then a major league game makes a great date. Minor league games aren’t shabby either. Baseball is a game that can be enjoyed by men and women; even non-sports fans seem to have a good time at the park. This also gives you an opportunity to enjoy some cold beer and have a good time in a laid back setting.
These date ideas are perfect for summer and will show your significant other that you are more creative than the average date. Don’t be afraid to try something new and different.
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Tuesday, June 5th, 2007
Repairing broken trust in a relationship can be very difficult. Many times the reason for the broken trust stems from infidelity or broken promises and these violations within a relationship can virtually destroy it. If you and your partner are committed to working through it though, you will find that your relationship can become stronger than ever.
Before any trust can be rebuilt you must address how and/or why it was broken in the first place. This is the time for brutal honesty. A complete confessional of how the trust was broken should only be done when you are both ready to hear it. Heartfelt apologies should be offered with indications of remorse and promises to not violate the trust again.
There is a massive amount of stress on your relationship once the trust has been broken. Reconciliation can happen first. This happens when both you and your partner make an agreement to work on the issues and rebuild the trust and the relationship. Reconciliation usually has to happen before forgiveness. It also indicates that you are invested in salvaging the relationship and not giving up on it. In many cases it will be up to the person that violated the trust to initiate reconciliation.
The most difficult task is then to forgive. It is never easy to forgive, but if you continue to hold on you will constantly live in a state of rage or anger. Forgiving doesn’t mean that you excuse abusive behavior. It does mean that you are able to work towards letting go of the past. Relationship experts suggest starting with forgiving your partner for their weakness. Your partner also needs to be ready to be forgiven and accept the consequences of their actions.
Sit down with your partner and reevaluate your goals. Remind each other what your priorities are and what unifies your life together. Sometimes a vocal or written commitment to the relationship is a good place to start. Try to avoid setting up conditions of forgiveness.
Getting outside help is strongly recommended. Make an appointment for the two of you to sit down with a relationship counselor. This should be a safe environment for both of you to be honest about how the trust has been damaged or lost. These counselors will have steps for you to go through that will help repair any damage, or in the worst cases, help you to safely walk away from each other.
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Tuesday, June 5th, 2007
When you have been dating someone for a longer amount of time, you may find yourself bored and lacking ideas to spice up a date. It can be as simple as finding new, exciting places to go. Take the time to think up some new ideas for dates to give a little spark to an otherwise boring evening. Here are some ideas to help you conjure up a creative date.
Take your date to the playground. You might think it is for kids, but running around, playing on the swings, and sliding down the curvy slides can lead to a daytime or nighttime full of laughs. It also leads to great conversation as you sit on the seesaw and just look at each other. A simple but unusual date can be going to an Art museum, or gallery opening, and then taking a large pad of paper, crayons or markers, and trying to recreate what was hanging in the museum. If neither of you has any art ability, you can at least laugh about it for hours.
You could consider taking lessons in something that you both enjoy, such as horseback riding, sailing, or tennis. That way you can learn something new while you spend time with each other. Try a local rock climbing wall, aerobics class, or a spa. All of these ideas can inspire not only your love life, but they can keep you in shape. A planetarium can be an atypical date. It is a wonderful place to sit in the dark, hold hands, and enjoy a little bit of what the earth has to offer. Some planetariums have laser light shows that are set to music, to make looking at the stars more exciting.
For a really unusual and unknown date, try a “coin flip date”. You go to a downtown, historic, or touristy area and park somewhere. You then flip a coin to see which direction you go in. Heads you go left, tails you go right, and see what interests you. Every stop you make, flip the coin again; let the date take you wherever the coin flip leads you. There is no planning, and you can find out what a person likes or dislikes by the type of museums, stores, or restaurants they want to stop at. You can make any date fun and creative, just put a little a bit of yourself into it.
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