Wednesday, October 31st, 2007
When it comes to sex, it’s important that both members enter into all aspects of their relationship with a healthy and positive attitude. However, no one is positive every day, and it’s only a matter of time before doubt, low self esteem, and negativity may cause issues to arise.
One area in particular, where low self-image can wreak havoc in a relationship, is when men struggle with self esteem issues regarding sex. This may be due to comments that their partner has made, issues that existed in previous relationships, or simply a poor self-image that the man has imagined. However, despite the cause, there is no doubt that low self esteem can negatively affect the way a man performs sexually.
It may come as a surprise, but sex doesn’t begin with physical contact, it begins in the mind. How you think and feel about yourself and your partner has a strong impact on your performance, and if you feel that you aren’t pleasing your partner, or fear that they aren’t enjoying being intimate with you, your sexual intimacy will suffer.
The first thing that must be addressed is your issue of self-esteem. Since you have no way of knowing for sure how your partner truly feels, it’s important that you ask her. Without adequate communication, you have no real way of knowing if there’s a problem or if you’re just suffering from low self-esteem and unwarranted fears. Unfortunately, some couples find it very difficult to talk about sex and this only adds coals to the fire. If you are suffering in your sexual relationship with your partner, or fear that you aren’t pleasing her, the only solution is to discuss it openly. Finding out if your partner is pleased is the main objective, and if she isn’t…don’t take it too harshly. Simply find out what your partner likes and make changes. However, you can’t begin to change those areas in your relationship without discussing the issue at hand.
If you feel that your not pleasing your partner and that you need to discuss the issue with her, find a time where both of you are calm, relaxed, and without a lot of pressure. If she’s unwilling or finds it difficult to talk about, you might want to bring it up after a nice dinner with a glass of wine. You should never discuss these issues after sex because that can lead to more self-esteem issues. You should keep in mind the fact that regardless of what Hollywood movies state, sex is not best learned by watching the big screen, it is an art that is special between two people and every person is different. What pleases one woman may not please another so understanding what satisfies your partner is critical to your relationship.
As long as you two discuss things in an open and mature manner, you can work around any issues that you have and find what best pleases both of you together. In fact, you might find that discovering the best way to please your partner sexually can be a wonderfully romantic experience.
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Tuesday, October 23rd, 2007
A coin is easy to earn, a friend is hard to find. The coin depreciates but a friend appreciates. I lost a coin when I texted you, but it’s okay because I got you.
1st time i saw u i was scared 2 touch u, 1st time i touched u i was scared 2 kiss u, 1st time i kiss u i was scared to luv u, but now dat i luv u im scared 2 lose u!
Never rush in love for it never runs out. Let love b d one to knock at your door, so by d time u start to fall, u know that your feeling is for sure.
What is love? Those who don’t like it call it responsibility. Those who play with it call it a game. Those who don’t have it call it a dream. Those who understand it call it destiny. And me, I call it You.
If only those who knock at d door of my heart will become someone like u, I’ll never have a second thought to open it and say “Come in and you are welcome to stay”.
I thank God I’m rich not with money but with people like u. I may not have the most expensive things but I’ve got the most precious gem… a friend like u.
If luv s a disease den im very ill, but i dont want medicine, i wont take no pill, i will suffer dis illness coz it makes me see exactly how much u mean 2 me!
I prayed for a red bike, God gave me blue. I lost my old cap, He gave me new. I asked for a friend who will always be true. I prayed and prayed, till came you.
If u open my heart, guess what you are gonna see? It’s you. True friends are hard to find so I kept you.
There are Tulips in my garden, there are Tulips in the park, but nothing is more be beautiful than our two lips meeting in the dark!
I believe that God above, created u for me to luv, He picked you out from all the rest, coz He knew id luv you the best!
if ur askin if id hurt u,da ansa is neva.if ur askin if i luv u,da ansa is 4eva.if ur askin if i want u,da ansa is i do.if ur askin wot i value most,da ansa is u.
Don’t shed tears for someone who hurts u. Don’t feel sorry if u fail when u do your best. U should not be stupid to fall in love for someone who’s stupid enough to fall for someone as special as u.
True luv is hard 2 find, special 1, 1 of a kind, but the luv inside of me is true, it appeared d day i met you!
An angel asked me a reason why I care for u so much. I told her I care for u some much coz… There’s no reason not to.
There are 3 steps to happy happiness, 1 you, 2 me, 3 our hearts 4 eternity!
Each friend represents a world in us. A world possibly not born until they arrive. Thanks for making my world complete.
y do i txt u? its my choice. its my way of sayng i rmmber u. y do i rmmber u? its my choice. it proves dat i care. y do i care? dnt knw, its not my choice but my heart’s.
I admit I’ll never be the perfect friend. I’ll never be there always. I may not make u smile at times but there is one thing I admit I could do. To be the person I could be for you.
If i were a tear in ur eye, i wood roll down onto ur lips, But if u were a tear in my eye,i wood never cry as i wood be afraid 2 lose u!
Love has its ups and downs, its twists and turns. Love leaves you pain, teaches u until you learn and even if love takes so long, it always takes you to where you belong.
If had the letters “HRT”, I can add “EA” to get a “HEART” or a “U” and get “HURT”. But I’d rather choose “U” and get “HURT” than have a “HEART” without “U”.
U say u luv me & want 2 hold me tight, those words run thru my head day n nite, i dreamt u held me n made me see, dat 4ever 2gether we wud be!
1000 words 1 cud say, 1000 wishes 1 cud pray, 1000 miles legs cud walk, 1000 sounds a mouth cud talk, 1000 times ill b true, 1000 ways 2 say i luv u!
If kisses were water, I’d give you d ocean. If hugs were leaves, Id give u a forest. If love were space, Id give u a galaxy, If friendship were life, Id give u mine for free.
Ive got ur bak n uve got mine, ill help u out anytime, 2 see u hurt, 2 see u cry, makes me weep n wanna die, ill b right here, til d end, coz ur my luv & my bestfriend.
You don’t marry someone you can live with - you marry the person who you cannot live without.
what if i said “i like you”, would you text back and say it’s ok? what if i tell you “i miss you”, would you go back and say you’ll stay? how about if i confess that “i love you” would you ever text back?
don’t be too good, i might miss you. don’t be too caring, i might like you. don’t be too sweet, i might fall. it’s hard for me to love you when you won’t love me after all.
nvr n my lyf hav i knwn sum1 as spcl as u r. 8’s bcoz i can only c u wid my heart…n wat i c is a beautiful prson hu i wont c anywer else bt jst n u.
There are 12 months in a year…30 days in a month…7 days a week…24 hours in a day…60 minutes in an hour…but only ONE like u in a life time.
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